Welcome
If you’re here, something in your relationship feels painful.
FOR THE ONE WALKING THIS ALONE (Individual Therapy)
Today is one of those exhausting days. You’re looking around, quietly searching for support you can’t quite name. It feels like every relationship you begin eventually ends, and somewhere in that pattern, you’ve started to feel stuck. Like no one really gets you. No one really sees you.
And it hurts. You know there’s a way. A place. A person. Somewhere you could feel safe enough to be truly held. But it feels so far out of reach, because you don’t know what it looks like, or where to even begin looking. It’s foreign, almost, to your body, to your soul.
And still, some part of you longs for it. To finally feel connected to someone like that.
FOR THE TWO OF YOU (Couple Therapy)
If you’re in a relationship, and it feels lonelier than it’s supposed to, you know this ache too. Maybe things were better once. Life got busy. Kids came, or something shifted, and it’s not what it used to be. Now you find yourselves circling the same pattern, the same argument, the same bickering, again and again.
This is the last thing you wanted. You know exactly how isolating it feels. How lonely. How much it hurts. But you can’t seem to find the words to say it to them. And you can’t quite step into their world enough to understand their side of it either.
You’re exhausted from the surge of it all. The frustration. The quiet knowing that there is more to life than this, and still not knowing how to reach it. You want to enjoy this life with your partner. But some days, they feel out of reach, somewhere else entirely.
And all you want is to feel connected again.
THERE IS SOMETHING UNDERNEATH ALL OF THIS
That longing you feel, the one that will not quiet go away, is proof that you still care and connection matters to you.
The fact that you are here searching for a way means that you haven’t given up. This shows strength, resilience and hope for something better even when it is painful. DO NOT neglect this inner voice, especially if you are nodding as you were reading.
What to Expect When Working With Me
Understanding your attachment style
We’ll explore how your attachment patterns shape your relationships, helping you see the “why” behind your reactions and connection challenges.
Looking beyond the behavior
Instead of focusing only on what happens in the moment, we’ll uncover the deeper experiences and triggers that drive your patterns.
Support with intimacy and sexual struggles
We address difficulties with sexual connection and intimacy as part of the relationship, helping you feel understood and build closeness safely.
Learning practical ways to be vulnerable and feel seen
You’ll practice opening up safely, being understood, and connecting more authentically with yourself and others.
Making sense of your trauma
Together, we’ll explore past experiences that influence your present relationships, whether individually, in couples therapy, or as a family so you can heal and respond differently.
Identify the negative cycle
We will dicover together the cycle that is running in the background and steering your relationship. You will learn to take the lead.
My Approach as a therapist in Indianapolis
My work is trauma-informed, attachment-based, and person-centered. Using systemic and psychoanalytic insight, I explore the patterns that shape your relationships, from family dynamics and cultural influences to the deeper emotional processes driving behaviors today.
I work with couples and individuals who are ready to stop surviving their relationships and start actually living inside them. Most clients come weekly, so they have consistent support and can begin to move out of the feeling that everything is always in crisis.
With couples, I often use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, or EFCT, a well-researched approach that helps both partners look beneath the anger and the tears. Because underneath most conflict is something much quieter: a fear of not being enough, a longing to be truly seen, a hope that the person across from you still chooses you. EFCT helps you find that language together, the one that actually reaches each other.
In individual therapy, we will be uncovering the “why” behind recurring relational patterns, communication struggles, or feeling unseen and unable to find your partner. we create strategies that support lasting change, stronger bonds, and a greater sense of understanding within your desired relationships.
SOME OF WHAT BECOMES POSSIBLE:
– Moving from repeated arguments to understanding what the argument is actually about
– Recognizing your own patterns without shame, and learning to gently interrupt them
– Building emotional safety in your relationship, a foundation that holds you both when life gets hard
– Reconnecting with your own sense of self, separate from the relationship and the conflict
– Learn new ways to interact in a relationship.
Your Journey
Individual
Therapy
If you’re carrying relational patterns or past wounds that quietly affect your life — whether it shows up as anxiety, feeling overwhelmed, difficulty in relationships, low self-worth, emotional numbness, or repeating patterns you don’t fully understand, individual therapy in Indiana offers a safe, one-on-one space to explore and heal at your own pace.
Together, we develop new ways of responding to yourself and others that feel more secure, authentic, and freeing.
Couples
Therapy
If patterns from your past are showing up in your partnership — arguments that loop, emotional distance, difficulty feeling truly safe together, or challenges such as a physical/emotional affair, the arrival of a new baby, external stress or more, couples counseling in Indianapolis offers a gentle, structured space to rebuild trust and intimacy.
Together, we explore attachment patterns, improve communication, and develop new ways to navigate both long-standing dynamics and current stressors as a team.
Family
Therapy
When family dynamics feel tense, stuck, or out of balance — whether it’s parent-child conflicts, sibling issues, blended family challenges or more— family therapy helps everyone feel heard and understood.
Drawing on attachment and systems perspectives, we work to improve communication, resolve conflicts, and foster stronger, more supportive connections across the family.
Relationship
Support
Virtual psychoeducational support for adults anywhere inside and outside the U.S. Focused purely on understanding your relational patterns, attachment style, and how past experiences influence your current relationships today.
Ideal for pre-marital/pre-engagement prep, co-parenting guidance, divorce guidance or more.
Foster/Adoptive/
Kinship Support
Foster and adoptive children often come from backgrounds that cause escalated or unpredictable behaviors. Parents may feel unsure how to manage them or connect emotionally — that’s normal with trauma history.
Together, we learn practical steps using TBRI and attachment principles: building trust, responding with connection first, then correcting the behavior with evidence-based tools.
Discover Your Attachment Style
Curious about how your attachment style shapes your relationships today? This focused, one-time session is a gentle interview-style exploration to identify your style (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized), understand its origins, and gain practical insights into patterns and growth opportunities. It’s a great starting point or standalone tool for self-awareness.
Frequently asked questions
What percentage of couples stay together after couples therapy?
Research on Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy shows that 70 to 75 percent of couples move from distress to recovery, and approximately 90 percent show significant improvement. These are not small numbers. EFCT is one of the most studied approaches in the field, with decades of research behind it. The outcomes depend on both partners showing up willing to do the work, and when they do, the results are real.
What kind of therapist do I need for a relationship in indianapolis, Indiana?
Look for someone who does not just hold a license but who has specifically trained in relational healing. Licensing tells you someone is qualified. Specialization tells you they have gone deeper. In my work, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) is the foundation of everything. It was not designed as a general therapy tool. It was built specifically to help couples understand, repair, and rebuild emotional bonds. Because underneath most relationship pain, there is not a communication problem. There is a disconnection problem. And that is exactly what EFCT is designed to heal.
What does a relationship therapist do in indianapolis, indiana?
A relationship therapist helps you slow down enough to understand what is actually happening beneath the surface of your conflicts: the fears, the unmet needs, the patterns that keep repeating. I do not referee arguments or tell you who is right. I help you see what is driving the cycle so you can finally step out of it and rebuild something that feels safe and connected.
What not to do during couples therapy?
Do not come in expecting your therapist to take sides. Do not use sessions as an opportunity to build a case against your partner. Do not hold back, the things that feel too hard to say in the room are usually the things most worth saying. And do not give up after one or two sessions. Real change takes time, consistency, and a willingness to be uncomfortable before things feel easier.
What are the signs a couple needs therapyin Indianapolis, indiana?
You keep having the same argument without resolution. You feel more like roommates than partners. One of you has shut down emotionally while the other keeps reaching. Intimacy — emotional or physical — has faded. You are walking on eggshells. You have started to wonder whether you are still compatible. Any of these is a signal worth taking seriously. The earlier you come in, the more there is to work with.
Can therapy help with anxiety in relationships?
Absolutely. A great deal of what shows up as anxiety in relationships: the overthinking, the fear of abandonment, the constant need for reassurance, the shutting down, the fear to approach the other, is rooted in attachment patterns formed long before this relationship began. Therapy helps you understand those roots so that anxiety loses its grip and you can show up in your relationship from a more grounded and secure place.
What are signs I need therapy to have better relationships?
You keep ending up in the same kind of relationship. You feel deeply lonely even when you are with someone. You struggle to trust people even when they have given you no reason not to. You find yourself either clinging or pulling away and you cannot seem to find the middle ground. You feel more comfortable in relationships that feel chaotic than ones that feel calm. These are not character flaws. They are patterns and patterns can change. That is exactly the work we do together.
Are you ready to heal with me?
Schedule a free consultation here. Let’s talk about what’s been feeling stuck and explore what individual counseling or couples therapy in Indianapolis could look like for you.